Resilience in a child is important – all parents know that. Teaching resilience can begin early – as soon as your child begins to take their first steps. But what is resilience?
Simply put, it’s the ability to dust yourself off and start again; it’s knowing that things will get better when the odds are stacked against you and it’s understanding that things don’t always go your way. If you can begin to teach your child these life-skills early on as the leaders of this pre-prep school in Gerrard’s Cross believe, your child will carry them with them throughout their life.
Where to begin
Show your child that they’re tough – if they fall over, assess the damage quickly and as long as you’re certain they aren’t injured, encourage them to get up and celebrate how brave they are. Small children respond to your emotions and your facial expressions so if you display fear and anxiety, they will latch on to that and quickly become upset. If however you show lack of concern then they’ll generally bounce back quickly.
Similarly, if your child becomes upset about minor injustices or accidents, be breezy. Make light of situations which will pass – but remember not to be too jokey as children are sensitive and sometimes need more support than we realise.
Helping older children become resilient
While we all want our children to do well, it’s vital that you don’t put so much pressure on them that they feel bad about themselves when they fail. What’s more important is that you teach your child how to take charge of their own destiny. When they’ve worked hard to achieve something, tell them that they should be pleased with themselves – this is an important message and teaches them that they themselves are at the top of the list in their duty of care.
Pleasing themselves, setting their own goals and celebrating their own successes will help children of all ages to manage failure more effectively – which of course, is a huge part of being resilient.